NCPS

Toby Messer, NCPS

Therapist in the UK

Toby is a NCPS therapist in the UK.

11+ years of experience
Focus areas include Stress, Anxiety, Relationship issues
Approaches include Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy

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About Toby

Toby Messer is a solution-focused and analytical psychotherapist who combines a clear emphasis on present-focused change with a careful exploration of underlying patterns. He seeks to understand the roots of behaviour and emotion while supporting clients to make practical, meaningful shifts in their lives. By blending behavioural methods such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) with psychodynamic and analytical techniques, he aims to offer interventions that address immediate concerns and the deeper dynamics that sustain them.

His integrative stance allows flexibility - using skills-based work when clients need tools for daily coping and drawing on analytic perspectives when exploring long-standing relational or emotional patterns. Toby holds NCPS, a professional registration that indicates his standing with a recognised professional body. He frames therapy as a collaborative process focused on achievable change and longer-term understanding.

Areas of expertise

Experience

11+ years

Credentials

NCPS

Languages

English

Focus areas

Stress, AnxietyRelationship issuesGrief Self esteem Depression Addictions LGBTFamily conflicts

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Trauma and abuse Intimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changes Coaching Compassion fatigue ADHD

Approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based Therapy Client-Centered Therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Existential Therapy Jungian Therapy Mindfulness Therapy

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Motivational Interviewing Psychodynamic Therapy Solution-Focused Therapy Trauma-Focused Therapy Systemic Therapy

Also listed for

Abandonment Aging and geriatric issues Antisocial personality Attachment issues BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture Blended family issues

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Body image Cancer Caregiver issues and stress Chronic pain, illness, and disability Codependency Commitment issues Communication problems Control issues Coping with natural or human-caused disaster Dependent personality Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)Dissociation Divorce and separation Domestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issues Fertility issues First responder issues Forgiveness Gender dysphoria Guilt and shame Hoarding Hospice and end-of-life counseling Impulsivity Infidelity Isolation / loneliness Jealousy Life purpose Men's issues Midlife crisis Veteran and Armed Forces Issues Money and financial issues Mood disorders Multicultural concerns Narcissism Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD Panic disorder and panic attacks Paranoia Personality disorders Phobias Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships Postpartum depression Post-traumatic stress Pregnancy and childbirth Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harm Self-love Sex addiction Sexual assault and abuse Sexual dysfunction Sexuality Social anxiety and phobia Trichotillomania Workplace issues Young adult issues

Integrative Approaches and Online Therapy

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on identifying and changing unhelpful thoughts and behaviours; it is often used to address anxiety, depression, and everyday stressors by teaching practical skills and new ways of thinking. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) combines emotional regulation, distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness, and mindfulness skills to help people manage intense emotions and improve relationships. Attachment-Based Therapy explores patterns of connection formed in early relationships and how those patterns affect current closeness, trust, and relational difficulties.

Finding the right therapeutic approach is part of the work. Toby Messer collaborates with each client to determine which methods best suit their needs, goals, and preferences, tailoring sessions to balance practical skills with deeper exploration as required by the individual.

Online therapy offers flexibility and accessibility through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging, allowing therapy to fit around work, family, and other responsibilities. Registered professionals can deliver structured interventions and reflective work remotely, making it easier for clients to maintain continuity of care and access consistent support from wherever they are.

Frequently asked questions

How much experience does Toby Messer have?

Toby Messer has 11 years of experience.

Is Toby Messer a registered therapist?

Yes. Toby Messer holds NCPS, a professional registration indicating recognition by a professional body.

In which languages does Toby Messer provide therapy?

Toby Messer provides therapy in English.

Where is Toby Messer located?

Toby Messer is located in the United Kingdom.

How can I work with Toby Messer as my therapist?

Clients can work with Toby Messer through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging.

Does Toby Messer work with international clients?

Yes, Toby Messer works with international clients.

How much does therapy with Toby Messer cost?

The cost of therapy can vary depending on factors such as the client's location and the therapist's availability. Sessions are billed through a subscription that can be cancelled at any time, for any reason. For current details, clients should click the "Start Therapy" button on this page.

How can I get started with therapy?

Getting started with therapy is quick and straightforward. Clients should click the "Start Therapy" button and complete a short questionnaire that helps match them with their therapist. Depending on availability, clients can then schedule an initial session by phone, video call, live chat, or in-app messaging.